I can. BS is what I cannot handle. Noboby owns the truth, and in my opinion, you less than the vast majority of Medium writers who expect some grey matter activity when they read postings and replies. How do you sustain your assumptions? Blunt calls for a blunt reply, hence…

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Great reading. I stuck to the "back then" philosophy of marriage as an economic / security related contract. Part of it secures for sure. Is it what would push me to settle at some point ? Of course, with age, comes a certain kind of worry about my capacity to have my life running it's path without help ... Sooo, if I don't find my bad match, I am targeting being imprisoner for life, it's a better ending than an elderly residency ;)

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Very interesting. Allow me to add the traumatized people who are destabilized and cannot rely on these rational thought to start taking care of themselves. I am an abused woman, it took me lots of work and help. I am a therapist too...

I want to underline that, once the trauma is resolved, taking care of ourselves becomes a need and a precious way of living. My inner thoughts have been resettled to a point where I do not recognize the victimized self I was.

And, in my opinion, inner child should be replaced by inner children, one for every wound we collect (rejection, treason, abandonment...). Each of them have their own set of reflexes and rationale, each need a different strategy. Hypnosis helps in these situations.

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